Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Controversial Care Choices?


As you can see - I was getting REEEAAALLLY tired of the old blog look. So dark. A little uninviting. Cold. Blah. Anyway - I did a little redecorating around the neighborhood. It's still not exactly where I'd like it, but it's heading in the right direction! What do you think? (P.S. My twitter widget was designed to match the old blog colors. Not a great fit for the revamp. I went to change it, but twitter took down the widget page...or...they moved it to a place where I couldn't find it - boo! So this is a shout out to my old basic web design instructor and a pat on the back to myself for remembering a little of what I learned in that class - holla! Totally matches the blog again. I'm feeling very pleased with myself. Probably more than is necessary.)

So I've had a lot of time to think about life lately. Thinking a lot about health and family and our lifestyle. A lot of people think I'm cooky for making the changes and decisions that I have lately. But they have all been well thought-out, and McKay and I truly believe that these changes/decisions are what's best for our family. What works for us may not for others, and that's a-okay. There are those that vehemently disagree with some of our choices (take, for example, our choice to not vaccinate our children).  Everyone is entitled to their opinions, so I always say "Whatever works for you, my friend." We do not take these things lightly - we do our "homework" and only make serious decisions after doing quite a bit of research.

I have recently gotten some weird looks and head-shaking and lecturing because of our choice to use a midwife rather than an OBGYN for prenatal care and labor/delivery.

Now, we go to a clinic of six CNMs (certified nurse-midwives) and three OBGYNs. It is the same clinic that I went to for much of my prenatal care when I was pregnant with Gabriel. I love the OBs - they are great! But midwives are amazing as well. With the complications from my previous delivery (32 hours of labor, stalled out at 7cm, baby wouldn't move down, had to get a last-minute c-section), we feel it best to take a less stressful, more natural route. A lot of people would move in the opposite direction, or even opt for a second c-section (we're going for a VBAC [vaginal birth after cesarean]). After speaking to the surgeon who did my c-section and reviewing the op. report with subsequent physicians, we are positive that 90% (or more) of the problem (failure to progress) was due to poor positioning. Gabriel was laying diagonally instead of straight down - which means labor contractions were pushing him into my hip instead of down...there....where he's supposed to go. Ding ding ding!! Failure to progress. He was also asynclitic. And he was two weeks late, which means he was HUGE. Ding! Ding ding....ding....

My experience with midwives is that they work with you a LOT more than OBs. Again - not trash-talking OBs. They are fantastic. My attending OB (have to have one at least at the hospital during labor/delivery since I'm considered "high risk" because of the VBAC) is totally awesome. He fully supports our decision to do a VBAC and even our decision to work with a midwife. I feel very confident and comfortable with the decision as well. I believe that, in most cases, women are fully equipped to safely deliver a baby without medical intervention. In fact, I find most medical intervention during labor/delivery unnecessary. But that's a whole other discussion. Bottom line - I trust my body to do what it needs to do. Generally, midwives are much more supportive of that route and mindset. So we're going for it!

Because of the elevated risk with this pregnancy, we have chosen to deliver at a hospital (I swear I'm not totally anti-western/modern medicine! I just prefer the more natural route if and when available...) instead of a birthing center. I don't know if I would ever want to do a home birth. That's a bit much for me. I like the idea of being at the hospital "just in case".

Anyway - we are totally stoked to finish up this pregnancy and bring a daughter home to join the family!


  1. Good for you, girl! I had an unmedicated birth with David attended by an OB, simply because Missouri is SO anti-midwife. They've finally passed legislation here that makes it easier for midwives to practice, and there's a birthing center in the works here in St. Louis. Hopefully the next time I get pregnant I'll have the opportunity to go the midwife route!

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  3. @Laura - Glad to hear that MO is coming to their senses! I love our "birthing team"! And my mom is going to be my doula. She was there when Gabe was born and she was AWESOME. She has been a doula for others as well - so glad I'll have her again!