Communication is huge with me. HUGE. Nothing bothers me more than someone who refuses to communicate. Especially if that person is older than ten. Many a past relationship (be it boyfriend or bff) has ended with me because of lack of communication. And usually that "lack" is a refusal on their part. Not mine. I like to talk it out. I'm also a debator, but I pick my battles well. The relationship that I had with my son's father ended horribly for a lot of reasons, but the biggest was that he just wouldn't talk to me and it didn't have to be that way. Whatever problems we had just festered and grew until they were unbearable. I hated it. I can't live that way.
I have a pretty strict policy of open and honest communication at all times. I don't beat around the bush. I loathe passive-aggressiveness. If I have a problem with someone, I tell them while doing my best to be as tactful and respectful as possible. As an adult--a grown woman--I expect the same from those around me. Sometimes that kind of communication is difficult. It can make a person feel attacked and/or vulnerable. I get that. Open communication isn't always easy.
So now you know why I had a bit of an issue with someone I tried to resolve an issue with yesterday. I had a problem and I went to them with it and s/he just tried to make me feel stupid for even bringing it up. !@#$% WRONG-O!! DO NOT make me feel like I can't communicate with you if you wish to continue any kind of relationship with me (romantic, professional, friendship, what-have-you). So this person has now severed a critical line of communication. Good job, peach.
The 3 Basic Rules For Carrying On A Relationship With Ashley:
1-Be honest. (no lying, cheating, stealing, etc.)
3-Communicate like a mature adult (unless you'r not an adult--but then you'll be treated like a child)
Simple rules, I think. Pretty basic.